Introduction -- Part One: Understanding your attachment needs. The problem beneath the problem -- Understanding attachment theory -- Identifying your attachment type -- Part Two: Understanding how you conflict-and how to repair. What is your negative cycle? -- Interrupting the negative cycle -- Preventing the negative cycle: the attachment-friendly enviornment -- Reaching and responding -- Repairing after a negative cycle -- Attachment injuries and repair -- Part Three: Real-world considerations. Workable intruders: mental disorders, trauma, and addictions -- The sex factor -- When you aren't seeing results -- Instead of this, do this -- Conclusion: Going forward in the world with secure love -- Appendix -- Acknowledgments -- Notes -- Index.