Title:
The man who mistook his job for his life : how to thrive at work by leaving your emotional baggage behind
Author:
Publication Date:
2021
Publication Information:
London : WH Allen, 2021.
Physical Description:
259 pages ; 23 cm
ISBN:
9780753558300
9780753558317
Abstract:
You probably don't realise this, but every working day you replay and re-enact conflicts, dynamics and relationships from your past. Whether it's confusing an authority figure with a parent; avoiding conflict because of past squabbles with siblings; or suffering from imposter syndrome because of the way your family responded to success, when it comes to work we are all trapped in our own upbringings and the patterns of behaviour we learned while growing up. Many of us spend eighteen formative years or more living with family and building our personality; but most of us also spend fifty years, or 90,000 hours, in the workplace. With the pull of the familial so strong, we unconsciously re-enact our personal past in our professional present, even when it holds us back. Through intimate stories, fascinating insights and provocative questions, business psychotherapist Naomi Shragai will transform how you think about yourself and your working life. Based on thirty years of expertise and practice, Shragaiwill show you that what is holding you back is within your gift to change, and the first step is to realise how you, like the rest of the people you work with, habitually confuse your professional present with your personal past.
Contents:
Introduction: acting out our internal dramas at work -- Hijacked by strong feelings -- and the defences we mount in the workplace -- The impostor syndrome -- or, when feeling a fraud can be a blessing -- Is fear of rejection cramping your style? -- or, when people pleasing becomes compulsive -- Overachievement has its limits -- or, the unintended costs of success -- Personality clashes -- what part do you play in them? -- Paranoia, envy and the seeds of irrational conflict -- In fear of conflict -- or, why there is no such think as a perfect childhood -- Control freaks, bullies and tyrants -- how to deal with them and know when to run -- Perils of the pedestal -- why idealisation inevitably leads to a crash -- In defence of (most) narcissists -- and what we get wrong about them -- The upside of the downside -- when our neurotic traits come to our rescue -- Will work ever love me back?
Language:
English
