Introduction: Is self-help for broken people? -- The lie : My work is who I am -- The lie : The things that have worked are the things that will work -- The lie : I have to have it all together -- The lie : A drink will make this better -- The lie : I did something wrong, so I am something wrong -- The lie : Everyone is thinking about what I'm doing -- The lie : Being right all the time doesn't make me an ass -- The lie : Failure means you're weak -- The lie : It's my job to protect them from problems -- The lie : I can phone it in and be just fine -- The lie : If she doesn't love me, I'm not lovable -- The lie : Real men don't show emotion -- The lie : I know what she needs -- The lie : My role in this relationship is constant -- The lie : If they don't need me, they won't want me -- The lie : I know what you've been through -- The lie : Things that are possible for other people aren't possible for me -- The lie : I need to parent like my parents -- The lie : I can achieve balance if I work hard enough -- Conclusion: Stay out of your own way with intention and discipline.