The wonder of aging. The next rite of passage ; Are you in a new stage of life? ; Two women ; Research and vision ; Being and doing ; Being visible -- Toward a new spirit of aging. Forging a new spirit of aging ; Stress as the catalyst of spirit ; Embracing our age ; A circle of friends ; Becoming an elder ; Choosing freedom -- The age of transformation. A time like no other ; The stages of age ; Stage 1: the age of transformation ; Menopause and andropause as spiritual quest ; Developing fearlessness in our fifties ; The rope and the snake -- The ages of distinction and completion. Stage 2: the age of distinction ; Identifying your distinction and legacy ; The elder's love ; Devotion and a life of joy ; Women, men, and distinction ; Stage 3: the age of completion ; The spirit of completion ; The final journey of renunciation ; Moses looks back on his life -- How men and women age differently. Beautiful and life-sustaining difference ; How women and men do conflict differently ; Exploring seven differences, and enjoying them ; Differences that diminish with age ; Help the men age well, too, will you? -- The wisdom of intimate separateness. The art of intimate separateness ; Sex and the IS paradigm ; The monogamy gene ; A new way of love -- The amazing grandparent brain. The grandparent brain ; Are grandmothers and grandfathers different? ; The sacred stories of the grandparents ; Stress and the amazing grandparent brain ; You are in the driver's seat -- A new lifetime of second chances. "Eva's song" ; Completion spirituality ; The place you have found -- The miracle of dying and death. There's no right way to die, but there is a better way ; Completion spirituality and dying ; Protecting the miracle of your death ; Confronting our fear of abandonment ; Ten concentrations ; "Kathy's song" -- Epilogue.